Where's The Love?

If you do not know how to forgive then you fail to understand love. Please "don't" even think about getting married. Love within marriage demands compromise. We tend to embrace the notion that love and marriage are synonymous, that they spring from the same motives, and cover the same needs. Like most popular notions this also rests not on actual facts, but on fallacy.

In order to be loved you must exude love. I know what you're thinking. This is a load of garbage. Believe me, I know there are days you getup and know that you are not lovable. Don't discount the biblical reference to "Love conquers ALL things" give it a try. Instead of trying to attract the love of others, seek to give your love to others, expecting nothing in return. If the steak is burnt and the salad soggy throw it out (discreetly if your eating alone) and make a sandwich. FORGIVE!

Within marriage we long to be loved. It is a natural desire ingrained within us. It was why we were attracted to each other in the first place. We were drawn to each other and desired something from one another that we LOVED. We grow up as children "loving" quite a few things but as we grow older we soon learn to say "I don't like." Once matured we become fault finders and nit-pickers. It's amazing to me that we can point out ugly all day long and fail to recognize anything beautiful in the day.

To sum up:

1. You and your spouse ARE close together so close in fact that you are One.

2. If you would feel the truth of this, you must come to your marriage in faithful love, and you must not allow yourself to condemn, ridicule or judge, physically, verbally or mentally. Don’t use what you discover and learn from each other as weapons of mass destruction. It's a war that once started never won.

3. You must persist in doing this until faith, love and understanding become the habit of your life together.

4. Love is truly beautiful to those who seek to find it.